Basically, ladies and gents, when it is the obvious scenery that two people are in a relationship, respect that. Don't try to get a piece of it, don't try to ruin it, don't try to get your chances because you'll only come off as an ass, desperate and well, it's not very classy to be douche or a whore my lovelies. :)
Relationships used to be quite simple before our generation got corrupted from their morals. Now, it turned into a battlefield. You have to worry about you and your lover as individuals and your differences, then you got the exes, the people they fucked with and the newbies. Talk about vultures circling around your "property." ( relax ya'll I put quotation marks, just see the bigger picture here)
The thing that I've experienced since I moved to LA (I'm from the South of France) is that people have a huge lack of respect here, in not caring if a woman or a man is taken that is. In France no one would ever dare approach a man or a woman that is obviously taken...out of respect for themselves,and even if French people are known to be rude, they actually have a great respect for your relationship. They might envy it but will stay away, they might become vultures once it's over. but that's another story.
I've seen with my own eyes girls walking up to my ex giving out their phone number, or girls reaching out constantly when they clearly know that they are just making a fool out of themselves. You see, a lot of times men are cowards when it comes to these situations, and can be quite clumsy, instead of putting an end to it..they drag the whole thing. My ex took the phone number and then looked at me with big bright eyes "I didn't know what to do???" Women, our brain are a little faster when it comes to these kind of things but that's only because we are prepared to be attacked, (which is sad) whereas, men don't necessarily see the bad, I mean they know it's wrong but...they are just entertained... Sha lalala lala lalaa.... and sometimes they'll reach back, not really thinking of what it means to both parties who are going to get hurt in the end because that's borderline cheating for one side of spectrum and bullshit for the other. Basically, ladies and gents, when it is the obvious scenery that two people are in a relationship, respect that. Don't try to get a piece of it, don't try to ruin it, don't try to get your chances because you'll only come off as an ass, desperate and well, it's not very classy to be douche or a whore my lovelies. :)
I trust what I see, It took me a while to understand that what you observe of two people and what one may say can be different. Why some might cultivate "conversations" with others is beyond me, don't get me wrong I've been guilty of it in the past but it's wrong for everyone involved. it's sad that some men and women are capable of putting themselves out there when they should be out somewhere else getting their own life instead of hoping to take their place or have them cheat...now it's also where trust comes in, trust of the link you have with your lover, trust that he or she would not go that far to hurt you. If you see in time, that your own other half is also disguised as a vulture once you strip off the excuses and start noticing that it's all lies...( believe me when I say that you will know) well, perhaps it's time to go too, because you are much better than this. Hopefully it's all just volatile and not that serious, but make sure to communicate with your person and explain that it's wrong and that's it's also a form of cheating.
You can't control all these other people who are simply polluting your relationship because of their own demons, loneliness, unawareness that they are the outside and the toy that's fun to squeeze a sound out of once in a while. The beautiful thing is that even these individuals will find someone to be with and hopefully karma won't bite them the ass... Don't do something to others you wouldn't want someone to do to you, so beware of your actions as they always come right back at ya.