It's becoming more and more common for a man* to openly say that he wants a relationship, that he wants someone he can trust and confide in. Someone he can open up, love and that will not cheat on him. Yes, I did say a man is asking for this...not a woman.
A few years back, the man had all the power, the virility and he could do whatever he wanted to do...he would never be called "names" or judged. He's the man. The woman* started wondering why she'd be considered a "slut" or a "whore" for doing the exact "same" thing than what a man does. Which, yes it is unfair but now I've noticed that some "girls" have misinterpreted this unfair business and pushed things way too far. Meanwhile, you still have women that understands where they stand but their image is getting dirty because of these "girls" that have decided to behave like a man.
This mentality of trying to get rid of the man because of the girl power claiming we "don't need a man" is creating unnatural behaviors that are now confusing to men's understanding of what their role should be.
The girl* has become extremely independent but in a malicious way because they have high expectations on men spending money on them because "that's what they deserve." Yes we all deserve nice things but they have to be earned and today, the less you do for a man the better, yet he better give you everything you want. The difference is that a woman would give and take in a equal manner where both individuals are satisfied with each other.
The fear of men is to open up to someone because a lot of girls are being two faced and backstabbing, it's like they are bitter and punishing men that has mistreated their grand-mother, mother, sister, brother, and their past life. Chillax girlfriend, not all men are going to hurt you.
To survive the girl doesn't understand that her strongest skill would be to stay herself, in the opposite she's behaving like a complete bi-polar indecisive BITCH. She's the one who calls, she's the one who doesn't want a relationship, she's the one who just wants to "fuck" and avoid all deep conversations, she cheats and she's the one emasculating her partner and destroying the image of other women who are still "old-fashioned" for wanting to fall in love. simply.
Listen to the radio today and our beloved rappers are now asking for good girls, no liars, no cheaters and they actually talk about love! So basically, everything that we've always wanted from a man is served on a golden platter but the girl destroys all of that.
Have you ever met a good guy who got jaded by a major Bitch and is now an asshole And the only regret you have for him is that he ever met her and that she destroyed a perfectly good man? I'm sure you have, it's called a man who got heart broken in all the wrong ways. So, yes today I'm pro men in this post because I love them and guess what? we can't live without them...and that's okay! Men are not as complex as we think they are. If anything they are very simple. A simplicity that a woman often think that is calculated and dishonest. Not always!
Now, a lot of boys* have accepted the challenge by saying "great, no attachment, just sex." They have decided to accept how the girl wants to lead the relationship and is okay with being an object. I've met men that shamelessly asked me to just have sex or worse to make money with sexual interactions. I explain that it is not who I am, my beliefs or how I was raised. I absolutely have no interest in sharing intimacy with someone that have no connections with...I was accused of "thinking too much." Well, thank you ladies, you dirty "rats" like I enjoy calling them, for letting men believe that it's all just BiNG-Bang-BOOm-Thank-you-very-much-for-your-service cycle and extract all feelings from the sex act- let's use each other. I think it's absolutely despicable. Some girls are also trying to look like men by becoming bodybuilders, there's an underlying psychological issue of wanting to demonstrate masculine power. All this leads to men feeling helpless and wanting a genuine relationship but being unable to communicate their feelings because of the trend that some girls have set by not needing them.
It has to change, each of us needs to find a comfortable level of communication and emotional sharing for respectful interactions. The fear of getting hurt is driving us to not be ourselves, but what's the worst that can happen to be honest by letting someone know that you like them/love them? rejection? boo-hoo. It's better than living in a complete lie. I've never been afraid to tell a man when I enjoy their company, when I love them or when I'm hurt. It's so much easier to be open and it's also a great relief. It actually hurts physically to hold your feelings back. You don't have to do that to yourself.
*Girl/Boy in today's dating world: female/male behaving like a child- immaturity at its best.
woman/man in today's dating world: female/male behaving like an adult- let's talk!