Meeting someone is very much like an audition, you see the script and you just know you want the part! yes, you want the part in that person's life. Considering the competition, you learn your lines, clean up nice, slate your name hoping that wasn't already a deal breaker and put on a show. ACTION! your tactics assist you in the execution of your choices which are are driven by what you want and how you are going to get it-- acting 101. CUT---
I'm not saying that when you meet someone you are "acting", I'm comparing it to the same motion of "movements" and steps you will eventually go through to get a validation of this person's willingness to like you back and accept your "proposal".
At that moment, you know you got the part. Butterflies, fireworks....I mean you get the point.
Getting to know someone and making sure they'll agree to stay in this new relationship that you are taking day by day, let's just say there are things that you do in "excess" to charm them.
You know the texting 20 times a day, the invitations all week long, the kisses and affection are like similar to someone seeing a newborn and you make love like rabbits... if you didn't know any better you'd think you've been living in a cave for the past 15 years (If rabbits could live that long.)
Now you've been filming for a few weeks, you know for a fact that you have the part, you already know the whole crew, every morning you get on set around the same time...things are just becoming a little more comfortable and you're confident. This means that you let go a little.
This is often when I hear people say he/she used to love me but not anymore, miscommunication appear and sometimes breakups because of needing the same dynamic from the first day meeting. For instance, the texting, agreeing to everything, the high dosage romance...but these things are volatile, they are just substances over the water creating invisible barriers to what's really in the deep...feelings, organic moments, secrets, trust, pure love and especially feeling at home with someone where everything becomes natural..it's like my fart theory... A) you know you've reached that comfort level. B) if you still love him after that, you're in to win it. C) welcome to the official world of being in a relationship. Too soon? :)
You're not always going to be that person that you were when you first auditioned and that's because of the simple fact that you now have the things you wanted and you can "breathe" a little. It is often mistaken for not loving or caring anymore and it feels as you now have to adapt to a new love language that you didn't signed up for in the first place, or so you think.
Love evolves, changes and so do you in the process of falling in love, that comes with the contract...Not everyone will realistically treat you like their best victory every minute of the day...and Thank God...also, let's be honest you don't even do that with yourself!
Don't force someone to love you the way you thought they loved you because it might be an illusion that was fabricated by excitement, adrenaline, unknown, fear and joy of falling for someone the first time of all the first times . It's like love on drugs...Instead just accept the natural distance of you both living your lives within your life together.
You also have to be aware and not blinded by someone you love who might be treating less than you deserve or for granted. Now that's not love evolving or changing...that's just not being in the right relationship. We all lack sometimes at doing the right thing and at times, we mess up but that's life--Just never settle for someone who doesn't care.
Bottom line, it's okay to remember how he/she used to loved you and observe and understand how he/she loves you now and that's a beautiful thing.